Quote: I let her know that I'm OK and that if she needed to grab onto something, I was a steady object.
Man you did a perfect job. Just remember you are still her rock and now she knows that you will always be there to help her up if she needs it. That is flippin awsome. You deserve a couple of beers for that one...
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Ben 32 STBXW 29 3 kids (D1,S4,SD8) (1 dog 5months) Status: Fighting for the Kids.
"The only thing we know about future developments is that they will develope."
W invited me over again last night and I did go over. She was less receptive and distant than she's been the last few nights. Again, it seems she's back to her alien self again. It's just as well, I kept my expectations low. We talked non R talk and I played with my S6 for a while.
I really can't figure her out anymore these days. One day She claims she misses our R, then the next She claims she's comfortable with the way things are (separated). In the past, I would have been on that roller coaster of emotions we're all so familiar with, but now I just shake my head and call it another day.
Sometimes, she shows interest in my social life and is interested to know if I'm seeing anyone. I think she knows from contact with my Sisters that I am GAL. She emailed me the other day and asked a question to the effect of "who's the flavor of the week this week"? It kind of took me by surprise, but I did know what she was referring to. I can't tell if it bothers her or not. Sometimes I think She's indifferent to what I do on my own and then other times I think She prys to much into my business.
At this point, I'm so use to being by myself that I'm becoming very comfortable with it. I think if we ever did get back together (big if), it would take a lot of effort on both our parts to get use to living with somebody again.
I'd really like some advice or opinion from others here as to what stage of MLC she's in or what these signals mean. One day I get the vibes from her that She's trying to reconnect with me and then other days she back to the way she was towards me (distant).
W - I love you, I love you not, I love you, I love you not, I love you, I love you not!!!
M - WTF?
W - There might be a chance, There might not, There might be a chance, There might not, There might be a chance...
M - <Yawn>
"It is curious that physical courage should be so common in the world and moral courage so rare." -Mark Twain
I do not know the feeling the responses I am getting are all NEG so F-it. It is mine and my kids time now brother. Well at leaste you can say that you had a couple of good days....
Ben 32 STBXW 29 3 kids (D1,S4,SD8) (1 dog 5months) Status: Fighting for the Kids.
"The only thing we know about future developments is that they will develope."
Good days? I don't know about that, but it's been an interesting few days. She's sending neg & pos signals to me which is even more confusing than when she was just always angry and mean with me.
At least she was some what predictable when she was only a mean and hateful Woman. This new Dr. Jekyll, Mr. Hyde behavior is a new twist on our relationship. Not sure what to think about it or if I should even bother thinking about it. Sometimes, I picture her head twisting around 360 degrees with green throw up spewing out of her mouth. Maybe there's an exorcism in progress and I'm not recognizing it as such.
Anyway, your in the right frame of mind for your situation (you & your kids).
"It is curious that physical courage should be so common in the world and moral courage so rare." -Mark Twain
Yep, your right, I really haven't put much thought into her actions/words. It is what it is, whatever that is (huh? ).
I'm in a great mood today even if I'm at work. Very high PMA! I had an interesting conversation with a Woman I met last night whose H left her 3 months ago and is living with OW. He was cheating on her for six months before she found out. They were married for 13 years and didn't have any kids. She said the dissolution was amicable and it was final a couple of weeks ago. She was very attractive, engaging, successful, and a joy to talk to. She seems well adjusted for the short time she's been separated/divorced. She was laughing and enjoying my company. I thought to myself what a moron her ex H must be.
Anyway, she told me he was miserable with OW and wanted to come back to her. She told him to pound the pavement, so he's stuck living with this OW that he doesn't want to be with anymore. I told her about this BB and how her story sounds so familiar. She believes her ex H is in MLC.
"It is curious that physical courage should be so common in the world and moral courage so rare." -Mark Twain
She's testing the water...don't be upset or confused...she will be doing this for a while. Just keep on being you, she's noticing...when you pull away, physically or mentally and the S is confused...it is then - they start to turn.
Thanks 121! It will be interesting to see where this goes in the future. I never expected this behavior from her. It was out of the blue and caught me by complete surprise. There were a few times I thought I was going to loose control with the sexual tension building between us, but was able to maintain my composure. Sometimes, I think she's trying to somehow test me by sexually teasing me and seeing what my response will be. What's that all about?
"It is curious that physical courage should be so common in the world and moral courage so rare." -Mark Twain
What does it mean when your S is accusing you of behavior he/she is involved with?
Even after a years separation, my W still doesn't want to try and work on our marriage, but that doesn't stop her from getting angry and accusatory towards me when it comes to my private life.
She's having and has been having a EA for some time now, but is getting angry towards me saying I'm having an affair.
It's like she doesn't want me, but doesn't want anyone else to have me. Granted, I've been out with OW who I consider friends, but I'm not having an affair and I'm not interested in one now, but why would she care anyway?
What is this all about?
"It is curious that physical courage should be so common in the world and moral courage so rare." -Mark Twain
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