Quote: I'm a L and used to do some criminal law long ago. It doesn't bode well that he didn't get paroled if his original sentence is close to being up...God help her and your sons, and you. j-
I'm not sure how long they really intend on keeping somebody in jail when they give him 15 years to life. From what I understand, 15 years is the minimum sentence and life is the max. His 15 years were up and they denied him on his 1st parole hearing. His next one is 11/07 so I guess I have to deal with this on a yearly basis now. It just doesn't seem like a very long sentence (15yrs) to serve for killing somebody in my opinion. It wasn't premeditated, but still seems like a short duration for Murder in the 2nd degree.
Anyway, I have an update on my situation. I lost it today and really gave my W a tongue lashing. I'm use to hearing how bad a husband I've been the last 8 years in order for her to justify this EA. She is just playing this "what could have been" drama for all it's worth. She had the nerve to tell me I'm being irrational about this whole thing. She's having an EA with a convicted murderer and I'm the one who's being irrational? HELLO! Today, I just couldn't take it. I lashed out and really let her know how I feel about this guy and her relationship to him. I told her I was sick of her lies and sick of her putting me down. I called her a few choice words that I would have never said in the past.
I lost control of my temper and it's really not like me to do that. She's having a really negative impact on me. Regardless of our situation, I'm going to have to deal with her because of the kids. How do I recover and regain my composure? I'm just tired of dealing with this whole situation. I can't even face her anymore without some animosity in my hart and I don't like that feeling at all. It's been going on for such a long time. No matter how much I've detached, she still knows what buttons to push and seems to delight in pushing them. Why do they feel the need to constantly put you down and make you feel worthless? I gave her what she wanted, why do I continually have to suffer? Why won't she leave me alone?
"It is curious that physical courage should be so common in the world and moral courage so rare." -Mark Twain
