Itsy, Mlc finishes when he's ready to face his issues and demons. It could take years after the divorce for this to happen. That's why it is so very important to go on w/your life after the divorce. Once you've moved to your condo, I suspect that he's going to have reality smack him full in the face. He knows what he did was wrong, but he's not ready to face the truth.
As for the mail, leave it where you've been leaving it. He doesn't need to come into your home until you are moved. Let him see the house after you've moved and that's when he will notice that many of the things he once cherished are gone. Please don't back down on allowing him in while you are packing. Keep that boundary in place.
Yep, forgetting things, anger, the panic mode of calling and reminding you to do certain things is all part of it.
I'm sorry to hear that he's selected one child to be his best bud. I can feel for your sons. Your xh will have a lot of damage control to do once he's left the crisis. Listen and validate your sons' comments. They need to know that you are there for them.
As for you, pamper yourself whenever you can and know that once you move, it will be your choice as to whether or not you want to have contact w/your xh. You are now the driver of the bus, not him!
Take care.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
