His new life doesn't sound as if it is making him happy, and Calder is right, he seems to be hankering after the life he threw away. He seems very interested in all that is going on for you and in your neighbourhood.
The first step in reconnection, do you think? You handled it perfectly too.
Now let's see what his next move may be, although he my not make one for quite a while. Strange creatures, MLCers. I remember in April thinking there was a bit of a breakthrough when xh told me has had been depressed for a few weeks but he just shot right back up the tunnel, and stayed there!
But that's the worst that could happen.
What would you like to happen?
If you want it, it does sound like he is at least wanting something of a friendship with you. I always said that just because they choose not to keep in contact, it doesn't mean they have forgotten.
By the way, the alternative approach Calder mentioned was something I read in one of the threads here recently, but was really meant to be an alternative in the early stages of an affair. Cutting contact was for me, as you know, and it was exactly the right thing for me. Although it does seem to have taken away a prop for him, as Calder describes it.
We had done the friendship thing for so long, and it was just a cheeseless tunnel, but I certainly don't regret trying that route. And it seems you may well have that opportunity now, if you choose to take it.
Like Calder, I am curious to see what he does next, so long as it does not affect you adversely.
How great that you had the Mexico trip to tell him about!
Hugs
Jaybeexxx
So you plant your own garden and decorate your own soul, instead of waiting for someone to bring you flowers
