I had to chuckle at your mentioning that your H knows you could "rip another strip off OW." Years ago when my H still lived nearby and was w/ OW1 I asked him not to bring her to a place we were both taking a class and he said of course, he would never -- I had the feeling that he got the vibe that I'd rip her head off w/ my bare hands if she ever had the misfortune to meet up w/ me in person -- and ya know, I don't think it was a bad thing that he understood that.
