I had to chuckle at your mentioning that your H knows you could "rip another strip off OW." Years ago when my H still lived nearby and was w/ OW1 I asked him not to bring her to a place we were both taking a class and he said of course, he would never -- I had the feeling that he got the vibe that I'd rip her head off w/ my bare hands if she ever had the misfortune to meet up w/ me in person -- and ya know, I don't think it was a bad thing that he understood that.
Just wanted to answer your Q about where I live: Yes, I am in Quebec. The Als have made it to the Grey Cup finals for the last 4-5 years, and lost each time! It's about time for us to WIN!!!
Hope you're having a good w/e.
Nicola
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Thank you all for coming by and such wonderful words of encouragement. I am glad that I know I am off to university next fall but I am still waiting to hear from the one that is closest to me. I would really like to go there. After Christmas I have to check into getting the au pair as well.
The ds and I had a great weekend. On Friday we lost power all day and d8 school was closed as well. When it got dark we lit all the candles we had. Lucky my neice and I love candles. I barbqued in the dark. It was so much fun. I needed a flashlight to make sure the meat was cooked.
I took the ds to a pentecostal church to see The Singing Christmas tree. It was really amazing. On Saturday we had to go to a craft store in the morning and then after lunch we went to see some fun animated christmas displays. We finished the night by watching Christmas movies. In between I did laundry and other house work. My ds help by cleaning their room and the daycare.
Sunday after church we baked. Then my brother came to town. Sunday night we went to a street fair on a street close to us that has a light competition every christmas for best block and best house. There was an amazing gingerbread house. They built up a whole false front for it. My d4 thought we could just go in. She did not realize it was a real house. There was a house that acted out the navity story and sung Christmas carols. They sold hot chocolate and coffee and cookies along the way.
H called on Saturday while we were out and I did not let the ds know. I thought it is my weekend with my ds and why should he interfere. He did not ask them to call him back anyway.Also according to d8 they are supposed to go with h to by me a christmas present. She said it was h's idea. I have remained dark though and it has been very good.
Well I am sure I will stop by again this week before Christmas. D8 has a christmas concert on Thursday and she is going to be in the pagent on Christmas eve. She is an angel again.
Mermaid, It appears that you and your ds have had a busy weekend and it's not over yet. A little angel? What a blessing and I'm sure she's going to be the most beautiful angel in the pagent. Do take photos for your future "memory book".
I'm proud of you for not answering the phone. Your h is going to have to learn that you and the girls are not going to be around at his beck and call. He knew that this weekend was your weekend. He's trying to see what you are up to. Curiosity has killed more cats than not.
Enjoy the holidays and spend as much time as you can w/your family. They are the jewels in your tiara!
Happy Holidays to you and your family!
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Thank you for coming by and checking on me. It has been a fun and busy Christmas. D8 had her school Christmas concert, I went in the afternoon so h could go in the evening. I thought this might give him "permission" to bring ow but he did not. It would have been a little foolish since the concert was in the church we got married in. I asked h by email if he wanted me to feed the ds before the concert and he said no but thanked me for the offer.
H has been trying to be nice whenever he gets the oppurtunity. Either by email or a little in person if he ever catches me in the same room. It is almost like he is dbing me. He validates and thanks me whenever he gets the oppurtunity. But the more time that passes the less I feel attracted to him and really understand how bad he has treated me and how much better I deserve.
I know that I have to accept the end of my m for me to have a new life but where my new life will take me I am not sure. So I am being still and waiting for the answer.
I was perfectly happy and detached over Christmas. I was very busy. We had dinner spread over about three days for various reasons and I find that I do not miss h at all anymore like I used to.
But of course he did get to me. First when I found out they were going to his uncle's for Christmas. It still hurts that ow is in my place. Usually Christmas dinner is just at his mom's . The other thing is when I found out that h bought the ds gifts from Santa at his house. How dumb that they recieved Santa gifts at both homes. The other thing is h and I always agreed that the ds would only get one gift from Santa because they get so much other stuff.
So I when I heard that I just walked out of the room. H was going on to me about something but I just kept walking. He got the hint and then just left.
I do realize now that I should have spelled it all out to him. I did not tell him what I did not communicate much of anything to him because I wanted him to feel left out. I tried to take matters into my own hands not to mention he is not playing with full deck and therefore I should have remembered that.
Anyway I am off this week. I got two spa gift certificates so I may just use one this week. I hope to have some fun with the ds this week as well. Something low key. This morning we played their new board games.
I hope you all had a really good Christmas and now it is time to look forward to a prosperous new year.
Sounds like you had a really nice Christmas. I can relate to you about the whole Santa gifts thing. But I have come to realize that by XH and I both having gifts at our houses from santa...it makes my kids feel even more special because santa is all over the place leaving presents for them! So, it is good for them to feel that way considering all the heartbreak they have been subjected to.
I'm glad you had such a wonderful Christmas! It really does show in your post that you had a peaceful and pleasant time. If your spa treatment includes a massage, I'm going to be very jealous
Mermaid, I'm very happy to hear that Christmas went well despite two Santa visits. Enjoy the time you have off and definitely go to the spa as often as you can. You deserve it!
Have a great week!
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
