You sound SOOOOO good! Congrats on getting accepted with school!!! It's just another step foward for you in a postive direction for your life!!!
I think you are handling things well with your H. Good for you for stating your position with him regarding the xmas program...and the coffee....no big deal. That was you just being courteous...I don't believe it was breaking your darkness...I'm sure he wasn't thinking oh man, she brought me coffee, she's pressuring me about our M! You were being true to yourself by remaining the kind, considerate, gracious person you are. You would do that for anybody.
I'm so glad I stopped by your thread...I'm very proud of you!