GOOD LORD! I am so sorry about the funeral incident. That was just plain horrible and I am so sorry that you had to endure it. I could barely read it. You are so wonderful. I admire you so much.
First, you are the best. You have class, dignity and grace. You were right to say what you said. You have to set some boundaries and maintain your rights in the face of such horrific CRAP.
Your H has ALWAYS used your kids in between. The lying, etc. I also think he's saying what he is to get a rise out of you....kinda like fighting but you can't.
Just go dark, honey. No more vm's, nothing. Just a friendly, bare-bones exchange with the kids and that is it. You will not engage in his crazy life now, let him flail on his own. Who cares if you feel sorry for her, it's her choice and she has to live it. While he is in MLC, nothing you say or do will be taken the right way. The best thing to do is to back away.
Honey, you have too much dignity and wonderful qualities to engage in this nonsense. Just pull yourself back, go dark and build your life again. You sound like you're doing just that.
We all go through the phase of re-evaluating our M....was it really all that great? Was H really all that different than he is now? What am I fighting for? We all move further and further away. Many of us on the boards are there right now, and I am one of them. It's the only thing we can do. I am at a state where I am honestly having trouble remembering any good times, or doubting if they were really sincere. I feel I might be getting MLC too!!! LOL.
Hang in there, keep coming back here....we will support you.
