I have been thinking about you so much since I read your post. I have been where you are. I have felt the same things that you are feeling. I just want things to get better for you. We differ in our opinions of how that might happen, but it is truly your life to live, not mine. But I really do care.
I watched a movie tonight on W tv. It was called "Home for Christmas" and it starred Linda Hamilton (she is getting older like the rest of us). It started with her H having an affair. Showed him with OW and their D going to stay with H and OW. That part was so painful for me to watch - even 5 years later. The rest was about her struggles - some of it I could relate to, at other times I thanked God for all that I had and didn't have to go through. And of course, as with all good Christmas movies - it had a happy ending.
I'm telling you because it was about making your own future, your own happy ending. You have to do that without him. I'm not going to tell you that he is going to come through his MLC and come back to you or that he isn't. I don't have a crystal ball. I wanted one so badly when I was hoping and praying for Ex's return. Maybe it was better that I didn't know. I made my own decisions. Everything has worked out fine. Not what I signed up for, but just fine.
I will continue to check on you, pray for you and think of you. And for your daughters. This must be so difficult and confusing for them. I wish your H would grow up and realize that but don't expect that now or maybe ever. I know that my Ex never thinks of his kids' best interest. But that's why our kids have us.
Sending you another hug. I would keep my distance from him as you have already decided. Do some soul searching. Look ahead a bit and see how your life might be. And keep your faith.
