Hi Mermaid, I want to chime in and send my sympathy for the loss of your FIL and then this horrible incident with the funeral. Your h must be out of his mind to think that all would be sweet and serene with both you and ow there! Maybe out of his mind with grief but it sounds very selfish to assume that b/c it was a funeral that everyone would feel so sorry for him that they would not make a fuss.
I definitely support the idea of going dark. It is very satisfying and will be very healing for you. Remember that it IS for you and not just to "show him what he is missing."
And I agree with you that in retrospect your h really did pull you into this sad chapter, relying on you as a support while his father was ill.
This will be a turning point. Who knows which way it will turn though. Thinking of you. xxx Amy
