The least he could have done was to warn you she would be there, what a shock it must have been. She is at best insensitive, holding hands with your d and your h in these circumstances.
I agree that it is best to let him go, set some boundaries. And I would also let him know more coolly how disrespectful his behaviour - and hers - was.
I do so hope that you feel a little better today and that the stand you took felt somewhat empowering.
Please take the best of care of you and your little girls,
Much love, and many virtual hugs to you
Jaybeexxxx
So you plant your own garden and decorate your own soul, instead of waiting for someone to bring you flowers
