HI,although I never heard the D word, the threat of maybe leaving was there. I have learned the long, slow way, that you have to work on you. Be kind to him, don't talk about your m at this point. I hoped months ago when I first came here and read DR and talked to others in the same sitch, that no matter how hurtful and hard all this is, that by working on myself I would be able to handle anything, even if h would have left and d ws brought up. I have not been there, so I won't know at this popint if it has all worked, but I do know things are slowly better, and I do credit the work on me for that. Patience, forgiveness, prayers have all been on my side. Take care of you, and keep posting here, I used to be in newcomers, but too many and never really got too many responses. Sue
