I understant Ben.....Last night he was completely in the dumps. Mom said that he was fine when he first got there around 3:45. By the time I got home at 6:30, he was in a stooper. I don't know if he wanted some sympathy or wanted to see if I would ask him what was wrong. I asked him if he was ok and he said no. His body actions were showing me that he was way far away from ok. Normally he would stay in the living room with the kids while I am at home so that he doesn't have to talk to me too much, but last night he stood in the kitchen with me and helped me make dinner. He said that he just can't understand why this was happening to him. I just looked at him. I asked him if he still had the cd that I had burnt for him when he came home the first time. He said yes...and I told him that he needed to start listening to it. (He had downloaded a bunch of christian songs to help him get through what he was dealing with) I told him that I pray 3 prayers over him everyday..that is when he started to tear up. We talked for a few minutes but I made sure that he knew that I was there for him and will listen whenever he needs to talk. He stuck around for a few minutes and then said that he needed to get out and clear his head. He said that he was headed over to your house. He didn't leave angry and I told him to be careful when he left. I was not in the dumps about anything and I didn't look at him with puppy dog eyes. I just kept smiling and I almost seemed joyful. It isn't that I am celebrating his failures, it is just that I am seeing what prayer is doing and so is he.
He said that he was coming back over to the house today. Hopefully he will stick around long enough for us to play some games with Q. Q always loves that and J seems to relax and actually smile when we do. These are the times that I think he sees what fun he is missing.
Other than that, my evening was pretty good!
Too funny about the phone! You might want to wrap that bad sucker in a ziplock bag whenever you jump in the tub or shower with the kids around!
"Be patient to persevere and wait for God to heal. Keep in mind that you are both imperfect people. Look to God as the source of all you want to see in your marriage and don't worry how it will happen...Leave it in His hands."
Thats cool. I hope tonight goes well. He loves those kids and is just depressed. He might want to go to a doctor and see about getting on some AD's. I will suggest it to him. I hope I can get him to stop by tonight because I just went and got a new phone so I should be able to get ahold of him.
Can you send me his cell number again. It was on my phone and as you know it is swimming with the fishes...
Ben 32 STBXW 29 3 kids (D1,S4,SD8) (1 dog 5months) Status: Fighting for the Kids.
"The only thing we know about future developments is that they will develope."
He needs to do something....maybe getting away from OW so that he can actually decide what he really misses in his life and what he wants. I really wish he would start back to therapy. I think that could help him alot. I have scheduled my next appointment but I am not sure if i will tell him about it. I might need to go once by myself and deal with some things. Then I could schedule the next one and let him jump in on it.
He may try to tell me that he is happy with what he is doing but I can see it in his eyes and his actions that he isn't......
"Be patient to persevere and wait for God to heal. Keep in mind that you are both imperfect people. Look to God as the source of all you want to see in your marriage and don't worry how it will happen...Leave it in His hands."
I agree with you going by yourself for a session. It might help you a lot. I can even ask him if he is still going to MC with you? Do not know if would do any good but I could ask.
Ben 32 STBXW 29 3 kids (D1,S4,SD8) (1 dog 5months) Status: Fighting for the Kids.
"The only thing we know about future developments is that they will develope."
Just ask him...I am interested to see what he says. If he says that we aren't going anymore, you could always tell you and I have been talking and you know that I am going to continue.
"Be patient to persevere and wait for God to heal. Keep in mind that you are both imperfect people. Look to God as the source of all you want to see in your marriage and don't worry how it will happen...Leave it in His hands."
I know. I will keep you posted on how things go tonight. I know that he is suppose to be working this weekend but since he is suspended I don't think he will be. I wonder if he will make an attempt to spend more time with the kids or if he will just mope around with OW.
"Be patient to persevere and wait for God to heal. Keep in mind that you are both imperfect people. Look to God as the source of all you want to see in your marriage and don't worry how it will happen...Leave it in His hands."
"Be patient to persevere and wait for God to heal. Keep in mind that you are both imperfect people. Look to God as the source of all you want to see in your marriage and don't worry how it will happen...Leave it in His hands."
