Hey, Take care of yourself and those kids. As far as J goes with the kids you know for a fact that he would never hurt them so get that stupid a$$ thought out of your head right now. He adores those kids and they are his life. He does not act like it right now but that is because he is probably scared to be around you because of the guilt and the fear that you will start talking about the R. I know if I were in his shoes I would be afraid to be around you right now. No offense but you need to just be a friend right now and quit all R talk and just make him feel comfortable when he is around. The more comfortable he feels the more he will come around.
Put yourself in his shoes for a second.
It seems like everytime you talk to him the R comes up one way or another and he starts to cry or becomes introverted (Iknow big word for me ). Would want to be around someone that made you feel this way? I am not saying you are trying to make him feel this way but I am saying that you are not trying to make him feel comfortable either.
Take a step back and just think about it for a minute.
By the way funny story.
J was supposed to come over last night after he was done watching the kids. I told him that I was in the bath and that I would call him when I got out. Well I put my phone on the ledge of the tub where D1 could not reach it, because she throws everything in the tub when I am in there, needless to say the phone took a swim last night and now I have to go and get a new one...
Later, O
Ben 32 STBXW 29 3 kids (D1,S4,SD8) (1 dog 5months) Status: Fighting for the Kids.
"The only thing we know about future developments is that they will develope."
). Would want to be around someone that made you feel this way? I am not saying you are trying to make him feel this way but I am saying that you are not trying to make him feel comfortable either.
