I think it irritates him that I am being so nice to him. I think he just wants me to be mean and vicious so that he can just say "screw this" and his decision will be so easy. But I am not going to do that. I couldn't be more kind and loving if I tried.
I know that she clouds his mind. She is probably telling him so many lies about me. But I am sure (I hope) that he knows that they are lies. He knows that what I tell him about her is the truth. Right now he can't see that all he thinks he has with her is based on lies. Until he sees that, there really isn't anything I can do but to sit back and watch him hit rock bottom with her and the choices that he is making. Then I will be one that he knows will be there with open arms....
You have helped bail him out in alot of ways too. Just don't let him take advantage of you. He tends to use your name alot in excuses and I know that all of them are not true.
"Be patient to persevere and wait for God to heal. Keep in mind that you are both imperfect people. Look to God as the source of all you want to see in your marriage and don't worry how it will happen...Leave it in His hands."
