I would never use them as a weapon. But I do try to bring up the fact that he is going to miss out on all of A first's and will miss out on alot of other things with the kids.
"Be patient to persevere and wait for God to heal. Keep in mind that you are both imperfect people. Look to God as the source of all you want to see in your marriage and don't worry how it will happen...Leave it in His hands."
