You are both right. I guess as long as I know that D is not in his vocabulary right now, it is comforting. It is just so hard because he has been my life for 11 years, since I was 18. I am going to try to just stay focused on being positive and kind but I am not going to contact him except to find out about whether or not we are going to the next counseling session. Other than that, I am just going to have to let him sit and stir in the things that I have said to him. Aren't we glad that we can't just turn off our emotions like some of our spouses??!??

Thanks for the encouragement! How are you doing in your sitch?

"Be patient to persevere and wait for God to heal. Keep in mind that you are both imperfect people. Look to God as the source of all you want to see in your marriage and don't worry how it will happen...Leave it in His hands."