I know that you are trying very hard and am sorry that your day didn't go that well after MC.
You are right that those that are in A are living in a fantasy world. He is committed to not committing.
Have you tried not contacting him at all (apart from arranging visits with kids)?
I think that you and I are the same in that we want things to happen right away and we want to know how our S is feeling about our marriage. I don't think that our S are there yet.
My wife is all over the place when she tells me what she wants. One day is divorce, next day is living together as co-parents, next day she is going to get a boyfriend so she can move out. . . . .
They are so confused that they don't know whether they are coming or going.
I think that you may need to start to put him out of the picture for a while and I bet he will start to respond when he sees that you aren't pursuing him
My W responds much better to that than when I want to talk about R or need answers or ask what she wants to do.
My day has gone fine so far. I haven't called my wife once. Not easy but I didn't do it. I responded to a couple of emails but pretty much just giving her answers to info that she wanted. . . . no small talk.
I am continuing to project a PMA and not question her about anything. I am trying to "always agree" and affirm her feelings. Although this hasn't happened too much because she has been working opposite schedules from me.
Tonight is the first night together in about 3 days.
I just want to act like (it is acting because it hurts a lot) that no matter what she does I am going to be a happy person and a good father. She can come along with me or choose not to. It is harder than it sounds.
If you ever want to talk via phone or something just shoot me a PM. Sometimes it is good to talk with someone who is going through the same troubles.
God bless, SOH
M 34
H 34
Together 8 yrs
Married 7 yrs
Son 2 1/2
Son 2 1/2
SD 12
