ngu, thanks for asking. I'm a veteran here (so maybe I'm not worth listening too). My W began an A with another woman! Three years ago she told me "I'm not sure how I feel about you or the kids right now", two years ago I heard "I love you but I'm not in love with you" and "No, I won't go for counselling" and 10 months ago I heard "I've started a new R". So, I've been riding the rollercoaster for a long while, gosh, I probably won't be able to walk straight if I ever get off! My thread is "pushing it to the limit" on the jealousy/ affairs section. As I said before, DBing has given me the strength to continue working at things and making myself a better person. If my W wants back in, well, I'm here (for now). One of the things that has kept me in the R is my kids. I refuse to put them through the hell of separation/divorce unless there is absolutely no other way. If it means I suffer a little in keeping this together, so be it! But, tomorrows a new day and who knows how much longer I can hang in, only time will tell. But, I will be able to look in the mirror and say "I've done my best". Again, thanks for asking! Keep us all posted on your sitch.
