I understand everything that you are saying. I have done my best not to call him in the past week. But he has been calling me. It is hard when I go by the place that he is suppose to be staying at and his car isn't there. I just don't know whether to believe all of the things that he is telling me. He has told me that he won't be staying at the OW place anymore because of an altercation with the soon-to-be-ex husband. But that doesn't mean that things with them have ended. I would love to believe that it has but I just don't know. I have been so much more attentive to him when he talks to me and I try to ask him every day how his day was. I want him to feel like he can tell me anything and I also want to see if he will tell me the truth about things. We have both lost a lot of weight. I would think that his was more from the stress of hiding the A. Mine more from the baby weight but also the stress of this whole fiasco. Hey if things don't work out on either end, you can feel free to give me a dance lesson. God knows I sure can't dance. Never could.
"Be patient to persevere and wait for God to heal. Keep in mind that you are both imperfect people. Look to God as the source of all you want to see in your marriage and don't worry how it will happen...Leave it in His hands."