I think you've already started DBing! You've decided to 1)fight for your M 2) to stop pursuing 3) to give him his space. A perfect start Sometimes in the beginning we all want to chase them around, convince them they are wrong about the M blah blah blah. We whine, we cry, we scream and basically make them want to get the hell away from us as fast as they can. Detaching as best we can enables us to do what is best for the sitch and for ourselves. It doesn't mean not caring but it means showing a strong, attractive side of ourselves to the spouse. By making ourselves better people, we make ourselves more attractive. Now, if there are things in the M that you know were constant issues, try and address them. For example, if communication was an issue then work on communicating more effectively. The beauty of DB is that you can create a different reaction by changing your actions. You don't need Hubby to be on board to do this. If you act differently in some way, he must respond differently because you've changed the pattern. Also, look at the times when you both were happiest. What were you doing together? What was happening that isn't happening how? Try and work more of those kinds of times into your day. I'm guessing that when you had kids they became a priority, as in most M's, and you paid less attention to each other. So look at what you two shared before kids and go back to some of those things. Even if it was just going to a movie once every week or two. My W and I are now taking Ballroom Dance lessons once per week! It's time together and maybe it will make a difference. If it doesn't then at least I have learned a new skill which I can use to pick up other women (Gosh, that line is starting to get old, but I still like repeating it!). Again, it's up to you to know what would be infringing on his "space" right now, but these are just some of my initial thoughts on DBing. Little things can mean alot, for example, it doesn't take much to say "How was your day?" if you usually fail to say it (I have no idea whether you do or not). I hope some of these thoughts are helpful.
Sometimes in the beginning we all want to chase them around, convince them they are wrong about the M blah blah blah. We whine, we cry, we scream and basically make them want to get the hell away from us as fast as they can. Detaching as best we can enables us to do what is best for the sitch and for ourselves. It doesn't mean not caring but it means showing a strong, attractive side of ourselves to the spouse. By making ourselves better people, we make ourselves more attractive. Now, if there are things in the M that you know were constant issues, try and address them. For example, if communication was an issue then work on communicating more effectively. The beauty of DB is that you can create a different reaction by changing your actions. You don't need Hubby to be on board to do this. If you act differently in some way, he must respond differently because you've changed the pattern. Also, look at the times when you both were happiest. What were you doing together? What was happening that isn't happening how? Try and work more of those kinds of times into your day. I'm guessing that when you had kids they became a priority, as in most M's, and you paid less attention to each other. So look at what you two shared before kids and go back to some of those things. Even if it was just going to a movie once every week or two. My W and I are now taking Ballroom Dance lessons once per week! It's time together and maybe it will make a difference. If it doesn't then at least I have learned a new skill which I can use to pick up other women 
(Gosh, that line is starting to get old, but I still like repeating it!). Again, it's up to you to know what would be infringing on his "space" right now, but these are just some of my initial thoughts on DBing. Little things can mean alot, for example, it doesn't take much to say "How was your day?" if you usually fail to say it (I have no idea whether you do or not). I hope some of these thoughts are helpful. 
