ngu, Sorry you're here with the rest of us but you are right, it is a very good place to be! Do the reading. I know myself, when my W told me "I don't love you anymore...) I was devastated (The A announcement came the next year) and didn't know what to do. I went to bookstores and all I could find where books on how to end your M constructively or how to mend it together. When I came across DB I was thrilled, at last, something that might actually help me! It did. It helped me to change myself and look at this traumatic sitch in as positive a light as I could. By GAL (getting a life) I discovered so many new and exciting things about myself. I am stronger and more able to deal with whatever comes my way now. When I first read the book and came to this BB I was amazed at how all the lines my W had spun on me are the same ones everybody else was hearing! It made it so much more bearable than feeling that every word she spouted was one more indication of my poor R skills etc. This is an empowering place to be. Everybody has a different slant on things and no one can give you the road map to succeeding in your M but the ideas give you fuel to form your own plan of action. Keep us posted.
