Well, from one butthead to another, I can totally understand you, I was dying to ask my H this weekend why the op broke it off w/him, 'cause either I don't remember him telling me or it isn't 100% clear. Then, mercifuly, I came to the conclusion that all I was going to accomplish was to rub on his face something I said I'd forgive, and then I did a "click" and fast-forward to the end of the intended convo and realized that by the time we were done neither of us would felt any good, nothing would've been accomplished, well, something, rubbing salt on a wound that is trying to heal.
Quote: You can't love someone out of weakness and need. You have to love them out of your strength,
TL you smart devil, you are so right. I wont go into detail but I was just in a little "scuffle" over the phone w/H which left me crying, he did appologize but at the moment I was so mad I planned to not talk to him for 2 days or so.
Then I realized this is the same crap I did to him before, punish him for something he did, then I also remember that i have to think the BEST of him, that he really didnt' intend to hurt me, he was somewhat callous in his tone but it wasn't meant to be hurtful. With my thinking cap on I realized the silent treatment would only alianate him further and that I should forgive him not only to get him off the hook and because I want him eventually to say he loves me and feel comfortable w/me but also because that's what a good healthy person does, forgiving benefits me as well as him.
Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2
30something 2kids survivor of S, MLC, A, D I have peace in my heart, at last.
