I agree with MrsH....also, you know what you need to do....detach, detach, detach! You cannot guage your progress on your M based on looking at circumstances and/or your H's behavior! Don't get sucked into the tornado!
p.s. I dropped you an e-mail response this afternoon.
Praising God Daily, Remaining "FaithfulH" Me: 62 W: 62 D:33 S:30 & 31 Married: 40 Years BD: Sep 2006 Piecing: May 2007 2nd BD: May 2014 Working On It: Today