No you don't have to pick up after him. He threw a tantrum. You don't have to do anything to "pick up the pieces". Even if your kids complain to you, all you need to do is listen and emphasize. Let you H sleep in the bed he keeps making. You don't have to engage him.
Quote: it hurts me that they don't tell him how he makes them feel and his apoligies are just accepted without repercusions..
When you were divorced from your husband, your kids went through it too. It's going to be natural for them to seek his approval. As a child, they just want their dad in their lives and won't do anything to rock the boat.
However, since they are with you most of the time and you are the dependable parent, you will get to listen to the venting, the fears, the frustration,etc. I know it's not easy or fun. But you need to seperate the actions/behaviors from what's driving them.
Your children just want their daddy's love and will do a lot to get it, regardless of how he treats them. Any effort you put into solving this "problem" doesn't have a high likelyhood of working out the way you expect.
Me: 45 W43 S7, Foster S9 (Planning to adopt post divorce) D mentioned Feb 2015, Wife served 3/24/2015. She moved out 4/15/2015.
