I do believe you guys are right. I have focused on him and what he has done in the past because it is a constant thing with him saying he doesn't want to be a part of their life and then a few days later he will call and say sorry. Just like he did yesterday and then took the kids for coffee and donuts to explain why he did it and that angers me more than anything else because I have to pick up after him still. For a while I had detached alot and then something will come up and i'll have to talk to him like the stuff with the house i wish he would do what he is supposed to do and then I would not have to talk to him anymore.It seems the more I detach the more he does to pull me back in I'm gonna start to really work on this part of it and not let him pull me in.. at soccer games things usually go well because I don't stand around waiting for him to talk I sit with other people and he does his own thing..I will really work had to detach and reserve my anger toward him and let him get himself out of his own messes with the kids. I will continue to be the best mom I can be and thats that..thanks I really needed some time to think and I did that yesterday while they where out with him he has to be responsable for his own actions. it hurts me that they don't tell him how he makes them feel and his apoligies are just accepted without repercusions..But i have realized that he has to fix it. I do know that he wants them to come to his house and I think that will be hard on me because I don't want her to have anything to do with my kids so hopefully he will stand up to his word for them but again I have to let them go and decide on their own if they will go back... thanks again for helping to open my eyes to his games Joa.
