After reading what both of you have written. The thing that I am taking is that I know my wife. I know if I just ignore her that she will see it for what it is.
While my wife did have an affair I do know her and I believe her more than I don't about her trip. I do think that she is going to reconcile her friendship and put closure to the romantic relationship. While I believe her about 70/30 percent, I am going to have to go with my gut.
When she comes home I want to present a strong image of someone who is going to be happy no matter what she presents to me. I can't control her so I might as well control myself.
So, I will welcome her home and hope that this trip gets out of her system whatever it is that needs to get out. I will enjoy my time with my children while she is gone. When she gets back I will maintain my self esteem by showing that her actions do not affect my happiness only my actions affect my happiness.
Right??
TT
M 34
H 34
Together 8 yrs
Married 7 yrs
Son 2 1/2
Son 2 1/2
SD 12
