Thanks. Sometimes I feel like I am not doing that great of a job so it is good to hear from you guys.

I will review Toughlover's threads. Thanks.

I backslid a little today. I was obviously a bit upset about her leaving today. This morning when I was leaving I woke her up to tell her some info that she needed about our car and told her that I would see her Monday. She said, "Oh, yeah. I will see you Monday. Have a good weekend." I said, "Thanks." Then I made myself go back after I walked in the door (luckily I needed my gym bag) and told her to have a good weekend too.

So, where I backslid a little was this. She left me no gas in the car which is something that she ALWAYS makes a big deal out of if I do it to her. So, I sent this email that was not over the top but somewhat passive-agressive. The email convo follows. . . .

Subject: Gas
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From: Me
To: Wife
Date: Fri, Dec 15, 2006 at 8:25 AM

Thanks for the empty tank of gas. . . .

I will be using the card to get gas for the weekend.

Be careful.

TT

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From: Wife
To: Me
Date: Fri, Dec 15, 2006 at 11:03 AM

no, there's no money on the card. don't be a dumb ass. btw, you have 40 miles in the tank. i put 8 bucks in ....A**HOLE!!! thanks for the send off. can't believe i was thinking what i was thinking a minute ago. you are so YOU!!! i f***ing love it!

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From: Me
To: Wife
Date: Fri, Dec 15, 2006 at 11:34 AM

Hey.

I got into the car and the gas tank light was on. I don't know how far that will get me. You told me that we have $18 in the LaSalle account so I was going to put in $10 since I was under the assumption that there was little to no gas in the car.

Are you taking SD12's phone? If not, keep an eye on your email in case there is an emergency.

Be careful this weekend and maybe send a message letting me know that you found a place to stay.

Husband


So, I called the house not wanting to let her go see OM with this mindset. I apologized and kept from getting baited into any kind of arguement following her continued name calling.

She said that I should be praying that she can become friends with OM and find closure on this trip to see him. She said that is the only thing that is keeping her from getting back into our relationship.

I told her that is about all that I pray for.

I ended the conversation by asking her to text me or email when she found a place to stay. SHE DOESN'T EVEN HAVE A PLACE TO STAY RIGHT NOW!!! I really don't think that she is staying with OM from the intelligence that I have gathered She said that SHE would CALL ME later. I said okay and that I would be praying for her safety.

Any thoughts on what I should do when she comes back? Let her initiate R talk? Welcome her back with fanfare or non-chalant welcome?

Thanks,
SOH

M 34 H 34 Together 8 yrs Married 7 yrs Son 2 1/2 Son 2 1/2 SD 12