You sound like you are doing much better with all of this. That is great to see. It is true that it takes 2 forgivers in a marriage. I just had that discussion with my H. He only sees the small mistakes that I have made in our marriage and is using that as justification for what he is doing. But yet, I can forgive him for everything that he has done wrong, especially this A. Doesn't make too much sense, does it?
My suggestion would be to continue following your faith. That is going to give you more strength than you will ever know. I know that even though my sitch is so up in the air right now, it doesn't seem to have me down. I just keep having faith and hope that he will come to his senses and come home. I guess that is what we all have to pray for.
Good luck with everything and keep me posted. You are one of my faithful checker-uppers.
Have a good evening!
"Be patient to persevere and wait for God to heal. Keep in mind that you are both imperfect people. Look to God as the source of all you want to see in your marriage and don't worry how it will happen...Leave it in His hands."