OM is back. My wife in the last week has told me that she wants a divorce. I told her that she would have to go and do it that I would not help. I told her that I want to be married to her and see my kids every day. She said that we could remained married and just be friends. I said fine. She said maybe in a couple of years that she could have feelings for me again.
Before that she had reestablished contact with OM. She bought a plane ticket to go see him. She said that she is going to see a friend in Little Rock or go to Denver where she has only one friend . . . .OM. I know that she bought the ticket already for Denver.
She has done nothing but try to make our time together hell. She nitpicks everything that I do. I continue to keep a PMA but occasionally I can't take it and we get into arguements about our R.
I am now going to do my best to detatch. I am not going to make a big deal about her going to Denver. I can't stop her or try to keep her from going I know that will only make her resist more.
At this point I just want to be with my kids.
Any thoughts or suggestions on how I should handle the trip to see OM?? Should I just say, "Have fun." Do I voice my displeasure about it?? Do I tell the OM to stay away?? I contacted him months ago which eventually ended their relationship. She lied to him about the status of our R which really pissed OM off. I know that she is being less than truthful to OM about us.
My thinking is so clouded right now I don't know what to do!!!!!!!
M 34
H 34
Together 8 yrs
Married 7 yrs
Son 2 1/2
Son 2 1/2
SD 12
