I gotta keep hope alive! OM is gone. . . .

[Spirit_of_Hope]

Well, my W was playing around on the computer last night and I hear some "chat" alerts. I casually ask her with whom she is chatting and she names a girl friend of hers. About 15 mins later I get up, go to the bedroom and comeback. I goto the couch where she is sitting and notice that she quickly minimizes her chat window. I talk to her for a second and look at her screen and notice that the OM is the person whom she is chatting with. I said, "Your chatting with OM?" She says yes but she really was chatting with her girlfriend before.

I didn't make a big deal out of it and kept my composure. I walked away, smoked a cigarette and went to bed.

Today I called her at home to check on her and she sounded distant once again. I asked her what was wrong and she said she was tired.

She sends me an email minutes later that says. . ..

"i think i am going to have to plan some way to get a weekend away....by myself. If I can get the $, I want to think about visiting one of my girlfriends soon...like this month.

i'm not feeling good at all and i feel like i'm about to hit a breaking point. and unfortunately, i think it's fostering anger and resentment towards you.

i'm not asking you, i'm letting you know what i think i need to do. i will see if i can get the money."

I replied that just to let me know the dates and I will help her get away.

I wanted so bad to bring up OM because I know that is why all of this is happening again. She hadn't had contact with him in about 2 months.

Is there a point where enough is enough when it comes to contacting OM?? I told her before that I couldn't tolerate her having contact with him and now I am letting her cross that boundary.

What do I do now?

SOH