Now you have me wondering if I had a point or just prompts.
I think mostly it was prompts since I was not sure what position your heart was telling you to take. I know you have no interest in the cold state. I know you enjoy your life with your kids in Ca. You should, where ever you are.
If you stay very still and hear Him tell you life with your H will be rewarding where ever you go, then maybe you will know. If you are told to continue to be still, then that is the thing to do. If you are told you should not be asked to follow without choice to a place you do not choose, then you will have a very hard decision to make.
What I would like to see happen is for your H to learn to be very still. I wonder what he would hear? I wonder what he would say if the two of you were discussing that inner voice over the phone for a few months? I wonder what he would say if you began to share some of your little prayers with him, or asked him to start joining you in one before hanging up? I am fishing without any bait so I may not catch a big one here.