out of mlc into piecing together, Need advice!!

[brueniap]

J-
I've been reading along and am struck by a couple of things myself. I think we have to look at things from all angles. If you are still interested in your marriage I say what's not to try. You have a fantastic opportunity awaiting you with a new job - if you should choose this.

H deserted you for his dreams..........i guess this is where we face true forgiveness. Unconditional mercy. Humanly impossible - not impossible with God. I think many things have to be wiped out of our own minds if we're going to make the plunge again with our spouses. If we always remember the hurt we won't get over the hump and move on.

and besides..........you could love it there.....you don't know unless you try.

but you have to make a decision. I read in "Feel the Fear and do it Anyway" - there are no bad decisions - just different ones with different outcomes. If you do this than these things will happen, if you do something else then there's a different end. but.......you can make a good end out of any decision you make. It's up to you and your attitude.

And what's the hurry.......can this wait til the one daughter begins college? It may make more sense then? I think part of your problem is during the decision making progress itself. Once you decide what to do you'll go full steam ahead because you'll be able to start making plans. You are in limbo until you say yay or nay.

brue