I don't disagree. My point is that if he is going to ASSUME...then he must ASSUME everything. We all must do this. Grasshopper put it to me this way in the beginning. And I will use myself as an example.....
My W tells me she has something to do on Sat. night. I ASSUME she will be with her SD (sugar daddy). Now, if I am going to ASSUME that then I must also ASSUME every other possible scenario. She is going to a movie with a friend, she is going shopping, she has a meeting to go to, she wants to go to the library.......on and on.
We can't get hung up on what they tell us....."Believe in nothing they say and only half of what they do."
I know about the sex thing. My W told me that her SD listened first and then SHE came on to him. I don't know if that is true or not and I don't really care, but I know women want that emotional attachment first.
As far as giving them credit....hmmmm.....I can't trust my W. I won't let myself do that. When I trust I put expectations on her and then those become crushed. Until my W gives me something that I can give her credit for I will try and stay detached.
Just my .02 JG! You seem to be grasping this stuff much better than I did in your amount of time here. I'm still the King of Backsliding you two!
M-35 going on 15 D-8 S- 3 yrs ex-CL(w)- 30
D over one year
I may not have gone where I intended to go, but I think I have ended up where I needed to be. Douglas Adams "Just Be"
