SG- You know those little feelings you get? Don't go with them. It took me a while (and I'm still working on it) to realize I needed to give myself some time before I REACTED to those emotions. Don't do that anymore. Give yourself time.

I agree with JG....go dark now. This will be hard, but you don't have kids. The only reason to talk to her at this point will be b/c of finances. And even then I don't know how much of an ememrgency that would be.

As far as the OM goes....don't ASSUME anything. He could be over there for computer use. He could be over there b/c they are lovers. I know you don't want to think that way and I hope it's not true but if you are going to ASSUME then you have to ASSUME everything.

DO NOT believe anything they tell you. EVER!!! My W is still trying to be honest on occassion but she will lie about even the smallest things.

I hate to see you in this place, but you need to prepare yourself for the worst. Hope for the best and expect the worst!!!

Keep your head up man.

M-35 going on 15
D-8
S- 3 yrs
ex-CL(w)- 30

D over one year

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