You are on to something. My seperation really opened my eyes to some issues with myself. I went to work on them and became very happy with who I am now. I was grateful for that even before my Wife told me she wantd to work on reconciliation.
Candidly, when my wife moved out I don't think she thought I would change or address the things I needed to. When I did it she would not acknowledge the changes for a long time because it was not what she expected and it went against her decision to move out. It takes a lot of courage for them to leave, so I think the classic WAW behavoir is to not acknowledge anything that does not support or validate their decision to leave. Just keep it up, you gotta wear them down and it takes time.
