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Sorry for the long read guys, but this is to catch you up.

Friday 12/22
WAW gets to the house about 3 pm and we exchanged pleasantries, she comes in and get her gloves and some chips out of the pantry. We didn’t talk a about anything serious on the way to the airport. W ask why are you so happy? I tell her that life is great and this is going to be a great Christmas! We get to the terminal and my phone rung, I stepped away to take the call. (I told my friend to call at a certain time) I was LOL in the airport and doing a lot of smiling, W didn’t like that and I know that she wanted to ask who I was talking to, but didn’t. She noticed my PMA and said it funny that you are so happy? We get on the plane and I made sure she was comfortable and did she need anything? She said “she was fine and ask me why am I being so nice to her, you didn’t use to do that.” I told her that this is who I am now, thinking about other people first. She said that I was up to something. The beginning of the flight she made a comment trying to drag me into a fight, (her friends said it was not a good idea if I went with her to NY/CT) I was not going to go there. But I just can’t understand that if someone is not happy they don’t want to see others happy! We land go to her sister’s house in New York and got some sleep, I slept on the sofa and W slept in the bed with SIL.

Saturday 12/23
SIL had to go to work early that morning and would get home about 3:30p and we would drive to SIL house in Connecticut. W and I went to breakfast and had a real nice conversation, no R talk yet. I got a chance to show the new me. I was a little flirtatious with the waitress by making her laugh with some funny comments and W was laughing and smiling also. She said I don’t remember you being this funny. I was talking to the people next to me and made sure she had everything that she needed, PMA. W started to talk about R and I told her that this separation was just what we needed and it made me discover who I was again and to change some things that I needed to work on. We got ready to leave and our waitress came over to the register and told us to have a wonderful day and a Merry Christmas. We left the restaurant laughing, talking and having a very good time, all smiles. We went for a walk a after breakfast and got back to SIL apartment and we continued talking and laughing. Drove to Connecticut, I slept on the way. Got to other SIL house about 7pm and greeted everyone, had a good time playing with the kids. W ask me did I get her anything for Christmas, I told her no, she said that was ok. W and I slept n the same bed, first time in 3 ½ months! She told me not to try anything and I said that I don’t want you (with a smile). W slept close to me with her knees in my back just like old times.

Sunday 12/24 and Monday Christmas Day
Nothing exciting in the early part of the day, I ask SIL NY did she get everything W wanted and she told me that she did not get her the perfume that she wanted. So I eased out and went to the mall and got W the perfume that she wanted. BIL’s family came over and we had a big dinner. Some interesting things happed at dinner.

I was acting so silly and being funny, I had everyone laughing. W make a comment to me that I am being fake, I just looked her and kept on laughing! BIL’s brother was finishing his soup and turned up the bowl and slurped his soup in front of everyone. No one said nothing to him and his wife was sitting next to and didn’t even look his direction?! In my mind I said WOW, If that was me, W and her family would have went crazy!

I went out side a few minutes after that and W followed shortly after and said I was looking for you. I said why? She said that she wanted to apologize for what she had said and I accepted. I told her that I was just being myself and she said you just seem so bubbly, and she haven’t seen me like that for a long time. I told her that life is too short to be unhappy. I ask her did she see BIL’s brother and she said yes, I told her that I could not have done that, her family would have went crazy. But his family loves him unconditionally and they didn’t say anything. I also said that I understand what unconditional love is by seeing that and she said that she understood what I was saying and understand how I feel. I told her I know that God loves me no matter what and I get it!

So about an hour later she was in the bathroom throwing up all over the place, it was so loud that the whole house heard. I went in the bathroom with her and was wiping her mouth and holding her hair back out of the way. I stayed with her the whole time (1 ½) I picked her up so she could use the pot and helped back down onto the floor. I laid down with her on the floor with her and made her as comfortable as I could. (That was a big problem in our R and she use to complain that I didn’t take of her when she was sick, guess I showed her a new side of me! 180) SIL CT came in periodically to check on her, she was the host of the party and it was hard on her. So about 1:30 in the morning we had to take her to the Hospital, W wanted me to hold her on the way there and I did. She got admitted for a few hours. They gave her an IV and a shot of something. When we left a 5:30 Christmas morning, she wanted me to hold on the way back to SIL’s house and I did. I got her to bed (same bed) and every time she would cough I would get up and ask if she was ok? This was also a problem before in our R, that I would sleep like a log and never got up when was sick. That was another big 180 for me. We slept all day Christmas and I was at her beckon call, anything she wanted I got for her. (I understand that love is putting the well being of someone before your own.) W thanked me for taking care of her and I told that I was suppose to and I understand now!

Tuesday 12/26
This was the first day that she was out of bed for more that an hour, we smiled at each other a lot. W was being really nice, I was still being my bubbly self a man on a mission with my PMA! Everyone was making comments about the new me, I was helping with cleaning the house, helping with dinner, taking the trash out and anything that I could do to help anyone at the house.

Wednesday 12/27
Didn’t do too much, just hung out and played with the kids, talked with the family.

Thursday 12/28
About the same, BIL and I took kids to the mall. Drove back to NY for the flight the next day.

Friday 12/29
Wake up go to the airport and W makes another crazy comment to get me into an argument, I just walked away and went to get some breakfast, we didn’t board the plane together. She gets on the plane and come to her seat and apologize to me for her comment, I told her that it was ok. She slept on my shoulder when she was sleeping and when she was awake she was looking and smiling at me! We land get our luggage and drive back to the house. On the way back to the house she was not smiling as much, she looked kind of sad. I never asked her what was wrong, I just kept smiling. We got to the house and I got her bags out and she said it wasn’t so bad, huh? I said no, gave her a hug and she was on her way.

So after seeing WAW everyday for 7 days, yesterday was hard, but I’m doing better today. I sent her a TM to tell her that she left a strap to her suit case in my car.