1. Do I tell WAW what I found out at the store last night?
2. Was defending myself in that sit OK?
1. I would not waste time mentioning the meeting with Lori's XH. Your interactions with your W are important and should not be weighted down by the drama other people may create. Take the info. given and use it to understand your W's statements about cheating, that's all it is useful for anyway. If it extends beyond information then it is just gossip and once that is involved, things never end well.
2. Defending yourself is just fine. When you feel like you are being attacked with false accusations, it is only natural to plead your case. Perhaps she was testing the waters and looking for some hints in your response (we women do that!). Your denial text was sufficient, nicely worded as a matter of fact. Let it be with that and continue your DBing. Her calling you after just shows she was intrigued and be please with the fact that you got her to start a dialogue...always a plus
