W said to me yesterday that she didn't trust me, I'm thinking (WhatTH!) She said that she didn’t know if I had cheated on her or not? Ok again I’m thinking (WhereTH is this stuff coming from?) That’s not me and that’s not who I am.
So I was at the local store last night and I run into one of W friend's (Lori) exhusband. He told me that an old neighbor of W friend (Nancy) was telling him that her boyfriend (Michael) had been cheating on Nancy for the last year and a half and they broke up. Nancy was married to a guy (Steve) for 7 years and he was cheating on her for the entire time they were married and together for 13 and a half years. So Nancy was being cheated on the last 15 years by two guys, I don’t think she has the best opinion of men at the moment. Nancy use to tell W how lucky she was. W told me yesterday when we talked that her and Nancy had talked before she came over to the house and that her and Nancy talk all the time. So I wonder if Nancy’s putting things into W’s head? Even though W told me that Nancy was never a good friend to her and now that’s who she’s listening to? Man, go figure! I have learn to back off with the snooping and spying, it’s amazing the things that God will reveal to you when you let go and let him! And I do believe that this encounter last night was his will and him allowing me some information that I needed, because I was not going to stop by that store, it was a last minute decision
I sent W a TM at 6:00A this morning to tell her that: “I have never cheated on you, I honor you and our marriage. I’m not most men.”
W sent me a TM in response and I was not going to answer her back, but she called shortly after that. She ask me what was wrong? (I never told W that I saw Lori’s XH and what he told me.) I told her that I had a dream (I did have a dream about being a falsely accused cheater) and I was vague about the details of my dream except for she accused me of cheating. I reiterated to her that I am not like most men, I know that she already knew this but I had let her hear me say that! WAS’s sometimes forget the reason they married us and how wonderful we really are! I know I went against DBing principals and defended myself, but that’s a serious claim and I had to say something about me not being a cheater!
Names have been changed.
Two Question:
1. Do I tell WAW what I found out at the store last night? 2. Was defending myself in that sit OK?
Me: 37 WAW: 31 M: 6 Years No Kids BOMB: 9/4/06 D: 9/16/07 my sitch
