There are some very good comments being made here. As far as the understanding why she cheated, I do, and I have written about all of that in my 1st thread ( newcomer needs advice) and I have also accepted 50% responsibility for the situation being as it was when she began her affair.
quote: "It seems to me that the amount of regret, if any, willingness to work on your marriage, again if any, and commitment to you (time, energy, emotion) as compared to the third party is a good gauge of where you are going"
AMEN BROTHER ! My wife says that she is no longer sleeping with OM, however they do at least talk on the phone still. This is unacceptable to me, and dilutes any regret she may claim.
