Time to disengage...particularly if you are having problems dealing with it. Your behavior will only drive her further away. To get some perspective from the other side, check out the "I'm thinking about leaving" section and a thread titled "Calling all former walkaways". I think it'd be good for you to get some perspective before deciding how to proceed.
Let your WAW have the D. She'll get it one way or the other anyway. Once you give her what she wants, you'll take away the thing driving her. Your WAW doesn't want you and, as a result, the more *you* want the M, the more *she's* going to want to destroy it.
Read about others who have passed through the valley you are now in and learn from their experiences, gain from their wisdom, and take comfort in their survival. You will live through this even though it may sometimes appear as though it is too much to bear.
I am afraid you are correct. Bad news there are family events that I have to be with her at. In addition we planned a family trip after the first of the year. She wants to file before then. I may tell her that I respect her desire to file, but I have thought it over and if she does I do not think it is appropriate for me to go along. I plan to do so in a kind way.
I am so angry with her for what she is doing to our family. The only way to hide the anger is to stay away from her as much as possible. Our kids are devistated. My daughter cannot go to school, she cried for an hour the other day when she was with me. My boys are also having problems. She doesn't seem to really care. I have asked her to go to counseling just so we can get along, but she will not. She is clearly selfish and the only course I have is to let her go, I just hate to see this destruction.
I'm surprised you are still planning the family vacation. Perhaps it would be better if you go with the kids and leave her out, especially if you are already divorced. It's like rewarding her for divorcing.
In the end, it's not the years in your life that count. It's the life in your years. Abraham Lincoln
It is hard to fail, but it is worse never to have tried to succeed. Theodore Roosevelt
First we are not divorced (yet). I do regreat agreeing to this, but a bunch of families are going and the kids will enjoy themselves. I see it as a chance to show 180's GAL etc. We have seperate rooms, boys and girls. If she does file, I may reconsider going.
Yes please come on over and comment and read about my wonderful and chaotic situation. What a strange trip it has been and continues to be. Each day is a new trip!
