Time to disengage...particularly if you are having problems dealing with it. Your behavior will only drive her further away. To get some perspective from the other side, check out the "I'm thinking about leaving" section and a thread titled "Calling all former walkaways". I think it'd be good for you to get some perspective before deciding how to proceed.
Let your WAW have the D. She'll get it one way or the other anyway. Once you give her what she wants, you'll take away the thing driving her. Your WAW doesn't want you and, as a result, the more *you* want the M, the more *she's* going to want to destroy it.
Read about others who have passed through the valley you are now in and learn from their experiences, gain from their wisdom, and take comfort in their survival. You will live through this even though it may sometimes appear as though it is too much to bear.
