How old is your wife? It may be a midlife crisis. Also, have you read any of the threads I posted for you?
I know that I can forgive my H, he is in the midst of a midlife crisis. If he come out of it, I am there for him but like you said not on the old terms but a new R that is beneficial to both of us. My concern is if he can get over feeling like I am trying to screw him in the divorce. My motivation is not revenge, I still love him and want to work things out with him. My motivation is survival. I will be in financial distress if he does not help me with bills.
Take care and look at the site I have recommended there is some wonderful advice on both and both of these men have reconciled with their wives.
Everything happens for a reason, maybe Dad needs to find that it isn't better out there, he needs to realize how good he had it here. Maybe he will find God and that is the most important thing when he finds Him he will know he is supposed to come home.
