Oh boy. Since you are the victom of the affiar and you were a stay home going back to school and the judge has already ruled in your favor, you have the upper hand. Now if you want to forgive your H and take him back is your personal decision.
I am getting sort of the same song and dance from W. I am the breadwinner although she is fully capable of working and the kids are in school. She has been sitting on her butt eating bon bons while I have done worked my butt off. Yeah I blew up, but damnit I needed her to help with the bacon! Now she wants me to buy her a new car, fix house, let her use my seperate furniture you know have her cake and eat it to. I am letting her rant. She back off the car thing once I explained to her the note would be hers. She is using the kids as pawns to fix house and leave furniture. I am letting that stew. I am convinced she needs therapy. I am starting to be methodical about this. Yes I want her back, but I want her back on reasonable terms, not her terms, not mine, but ours. She is starting to contact her old college girl friends, I see it as a sign of she feels that life has past her by. She needs to learn the hard way, but as long as she does not stray (she has not I am convinced of that) and does not try to take me to the cleaners (I will provide for my kids and my best friend - her) I am willing to take her back. But sooner or later I will move on, I am just concerned she will regret this..... Her problem I guess.
