A MLC in a man. Wow I am 41, w is 44. I guess she is MLCing for the both of us. My theory is unfulfilled expectations. We all thought we would be at a certain point in our lives after 40. Unfortunate or not, the life expectancy for men in my family is 40 - 50 (yes I check the heart, eat and excersice) so I attained my goal a year ago and now playing with house money! People need to learn that life is not how much "bling bling" you have, but that you leave the world a better place for the next generation. Sooner or later everyone comes to that conclusion, unfortunately for some it is on their death bed.
I know it is hard to watch what he is doing (I am watching W). My situation is different as I moved out and she is the single mom with all the burden (believe me I would trade in a minute). I am trying to go back to the days before her, when I was single and happy (yes I am happy married). It is day by day, but the longer I go the better it gets. I have a good support network of close friends.
Don't unlove him. Reach out to him and tell him that you care for him and are there if he needs you, but just do that. He will call (my wife has). A lot of his actions are signs of insecurity give it time or hell move on girl!
