I feel like we are just starting to put the broken pieces back together (kind of), even though we are still separated. So I wanted to post here for good luck.
The day before Thanksgiving I received an email from my H (he has been gone since May 06 - sailing around the world on a yacht). He wanted to know if I was still his wife. Said his screen saver is a picture of me on the beach. I responded that of course I am still his wife (6 months ago he wanted a legal separation). This email is the first positive thing he has had to say about us since he left.
I feel very uneasy about starting reconcilation discussions. But, I would feel worse if we didn't. There are sooooo many issues that have developed over the past 6 months. It is very intimidating.
My marriage counsler gave up on me months ago. But I did talk with Chuck @ DBers several times after the first counsler gave up. Will be calling Chuck again.
I sense I have a very long and hard road in front of me.
Deb
Me: 45 WAH: 44 0 living children - 2 in heaven 1 dog - 2 cats Bomb: May 17, 2006
Joy and Sorrow...when one sits alone with you at your board, remember the other is asleep upon your bed. ~Kahlil Gibran
Me: 46 H: 45 Married: 5.0+ years Bomb: May 17, 2006 0 living children, 2 babies in heaven 1 dog, 2 cats
Quote: Good luck, deb. I'm rooting for you. Can't wait to read about your successes. Julie
Julie - Thanks a bunch - I appreciate your support.
You know I was thinking that this turn of events is eerily similar to what happened 2 years ago. My H was gone for 3 months then. It started off as a 2 week vacation by himself and ended up as a martial separation. Both times now, it seems to me that he has turned around when I had reached my limit and got angry with him over email. Up until my anger showed, he was more than happy to be separated. Once he knew my limits, he was ready to turn around. Hmmmmm.... maybe I should have blown a gasket sooner
Deb
Joy and Sorrow...when one sits alone with you at your board, remember the other is asleep upon your bed. ~Kahlil Gibran
Me: 46 H: 45 Married: 5.0+ years Bomb: May 17, 2006 0 living children, 2 babies in heaven 1 dog, 2 cats
I wish you good luck, welcome to piecing, when sometimes it is 1 step forward and 2 back, but they steps FORWARD nonetheless, hang in there, it is all worth it, it won't be automatic and full of second guesses, but remain strong.
Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2
30something 2kids survivor of S, MLC, A, D I have peace in my heart, at last.
