I don't know how to prevent what they do, from hurting us....OMG I wish I did. I think anytime we love, we risk. But in a way, maybe, you can be glad your H is such a jerk right now. I mean, it DOES give one insight and clarity, doesn't it?
His signals are not so confusing...he is a manipulative person right now, its all about HIS needs/wants and covering his bases. He is out for himself at this point. As far as when he'll tire of it, I THINK in a few months. But there are people who never tire of it, and feel it keeps them feeling young and alive to be partying wildly. They don't live as long as most of us, so we know fewer of them as time passes.
You are on your way. Now, prepare yourself and your kids for the holidays b/c they are sooo emotional and family oriented, it'll trigger things in you AND in your H, so be ready. Christmas Eve, if you are Christians, is gonna hit him hard. Don't know what to expect. maybe He'll go dark in shame and guilt, or turn it outward, like many guys do, and be Mr.Anger.....that'll be fun. OR he'll want back in, at least temporarily, so he can get his daddy fix.
Good luck on that and God bless, j-
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
