Piecing question

[want2bmarried]

I have linked my old thread below. I think its locked up now. We have flip flopped over and over. My WAH was here last night again and said he really wanted to try, but wanted to go really slow. His idea of working on things is to see eachother and talk every once in awhile. Basically live in separate homes and get together once a week or so. He only lives a mile away. He typically does this and then the next day changes his mind and its too much for him and he runs.

Last night he asked if I was busy tonight. He wanted to spend some more time together. Inside i was so excited!! I let him know when he called today that I was free tonight. He just mumbled that he wasn't sure what his plans were tonight. I said ok, let me know. That was this morning and I didn't hear from him until just now. He sent one, drank too much yesterday, still hungover, will talk later. Is he panicking again? If it were any other person I would be mad for making plans and then breaking them. But I don't know what to do in this case.

I just have a few questions:

-what does working on your M look like to most people? Its hard to believe what he is saying, and I don't want to be strung along. I would like to spend more time together and talk about reconciliation but that seems to freak him out.

-do people go right back to living together? I don't think we should but I don't want to live like this forever.

Forgive me for having these semi stupid questions. I don't want to push in areas I shouldn't and don't want to be a doormat either.