No jersting, I have not given up on you. I was sure it hadn't been that long but after going back in your thread, I thought it was strange too that I had not posted to you in awhile.
Anyway, as you may get from my most recent post on my thread, I have my own failings to deal with right now but you seem to be doing fine.
I would second the motion that you really can't keep reading so much into everything that your W says or does. In terms of this class she wants you to take, if you have to take it in order to D, um, that seems like a GREAT way to not participate in the process. If she has to get a court order to MAKE you take it, then that's just more work for her to do. It's not that you are trying to stonewall or be an a$$, you're just not going to go out of your way to facilitate her getting what SHE wants.
Also, please stop feeling her hood or anything else of hers to try to figure out where it's been! Just because she drove her car recently DOES NOT allow you to paint an accurate picture of what she's been up to.
I will try to check in more often. I think you have been in pretty good hands though.