Waited till lunch time and I called her and asked if she wanted to have lunch with me. She told me to meet her at the park because she did not want to eat. We met and things got phisical in a good way. She said that was alot more fun than the last time we had lunch at the park. (we argued) When I got back to work she had sent me an e-mail that said... THANKS FOR LUNCH!!!!! I replied my pleasure, maybe I could take you to lunch again sometime. My question is... Is this going good or am I doing things wrong?
This is very, very good. She seems to be coming back into the fold. You might just mentally prepare yourself that she might pull back a little, but so far she seems to be returning to your orbit.
when she talks to me like that it makes me want to start asking her about her friend and that goes no where.
Why? Revenge? What good can come of this? Is this likely to get you closer or farther away from your goal?
While it's natural to have that reaction/think that way, it's critical to suppress any urges to act on thoughts like this. Doing that would probably set you back some.
Is this going good or am I doing things wrong?
What are her responses telling you? I know what they're telling me, and I'm just sitting here on the outside.
I seem to be enjoying myself but I don't know if I am setting myself up for more heartbreak.
What is life without taking risk?
As I posted on my thread, this quote from one of toughlover's posts:
as someone once said, Sometimes the riskiest action is to play it too safe.
If you're going to take the risk of reaching out to your W, trying to regain her love, you do risk setting yourself up for heartbreak.
What would be worse, to run the risk of heartbreak, and maybe have it happen? Or to never try in the first place?
If you didn't take the risk, what would happen. You'd eventually have to move onto another relationship? And then have the same decision to make there......
You're getting the responses you want. Keep doing what works. You keep reaching out, and get the response you want.
Take care,
S_O_T_S aka: Stoic_On_The_Surface
I can't quite get there cause my heart's forsaken me - KT Tunstall
